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July 13, 2008

Hey People,

just a quick note to let you know that we just added a page on our site that has links to some really great articles we have posted all about how to improve your communication AND as a result you will create intimate caring relationships with those that you really care about.

Go check them out at,

If the link doesn’t work then simply copy and paste the URL into the address bar in your web browser


Communicating Is A Team Sport

July 9, 2008

Like all successful activities in life communication is a team sport. It’s something that we do with other people.

Because of this it is important to realise that you will need to actively listen as well as talk. Just to clarify…active listening is where you give “feed back ” to the person who has just finished talking.

You do this by restating to the “talker” what you understood about what they said

By doing this

!/ They know that YOU have actually HEARD what has been said AND

2/ They also know if you UNDERSTOOD what they were trying to tell you.

And another thing; This gives them the chance to put you straight if maybe you didn’t hear it the way they meant it. It could also be that they are having trouble explaining something really complicated. By giving them your understanding of what you heard it gives them the chance to rethink what they want to say and then say it in a way that you can understand.

Here’s a tip:   Whether you are talking about business, relationships of a more personal nature or even about what you are cooking for dinner tonight. Learn the skill of active listening. It will take some practise  before it comes easily and naturally. Just by letting folks know that you are hearing them and understanding them, your relationship with them will transform. As if by magic.

It’s not magic, actually it’s science. Research shows that when people feel heard and understood they are more likely to move easily into a state of rapport.

Just for the record, rapport is a state of deep trust and understanding. AND what is a relationship if not a state of trust and understanding ?

Ok There are the sorts of relationships that various countries have with others during wars and other NASTY NASTY stuff. We’re not talking about that. Because unless you’re a psychopath and a VICIOUS kitten killer then you don’t want that. If you’re one of those people, please… just hit the back button. ( It’s the green thing in the top left hand corner of your screen )

If howevr You are one of the NICE people in the world who beleive in equality, freedom, liberty and your right to live a happy and prosperous life. Then it may be smart to start using reflective listening.

The best reason of all is this.


Research also shows that if you are HAPPY then you live a longer and healthier life. You are less likely to be divorced and will have more fun. It’s a no-brainer really. AND one of the keys to happiness is having trusting caring relationships with other folks.

That all starts with reflective listening and a whole heap of other things.

Have I talked to you about rapport skills yet..?  More on this next time and once I’ve figured a way to do it I’ll give you the links to some other cool stuff on other sites

In the meantime you’ll just have to copy and paste this link into the address bar of your web browser…

Sorry about that,


PS All this technology is fantastic but it still doesn’t beat sitting down with friends over a coffee or a fruit juice and just chewing the fat

We’re doing it better than before

June 19, 2008

Hi folks,

Just a note to let you know that we are totally rebuilding the Transforming Communication online course.

When we created Transforming communication on line we didn’t know what we know now. So we figure that if we don’t improve on it well, we’re not walking our talk and being in integrity with our values.

We looked at it and decided that we can do it better than before. This is due to our model of the world being opened up. Now that may not mean a lot to you so let me explain.

One of the things that NLP pre-supposes or assumes is that your map of the world is valid . That is to say, the way that you view and or experience the world is OK and that the  intentions of your behaviours  (or actions) are good. Now these pre-suppositions aren’t neccesarily true. THEY ARE JUST useful. They are useful as a way to view the world as they are more supportive of you and they also assume that you can alter your behaviours ( actions ) TO ONES THAT SERVE YOU BETTER.  ( behaviours or actions that work for you )

One of the other pre-suppositions is that a “map” with more choices is more powerful because it gives you more options . So, what we mean when we say ” we are opening up our clients model of the world, or our own is that we are creating more choices for them ( and we do the same for us, because we are human  too  )

What happens when you open up your model of the world is that your perspective, or view of life is expanded. You are more aware of what is going on. You have the ability to   see what you have done before and get a different view or perspective on it. You may feel differently about it and hear different things that you can use to make life more fulfilling. ( or your courses and trainings )

Another really important pre-supposition of NLP is that there is no failure in life. There is only feedback. Some times that feedback comes from outside of yourself and sometimes it comes from inside of your self. As long as you treat it as a positive experience and an opportunity to grow and learn then it was worthwhile.

So, we are rebuilding the course from the ground up. It will include  more videos, so that you can get a clear demonstration of how the “processes” work. What this means is that  you can easily “Model” ( or copy ) them and get great results for your life too . There will be lots of audio too and the full transcript of the course plus a few bonuses we are working on too. ( these are just extras that we know will ensure that you really  “get it.”

That’s me for now, ( all the way from sunny Thailand )

Sawasdee Khap ( see you or goodbye for now in Thai )


We will now be posting to this blog several times a week, so if you want to stay on track with your communication skills and keep improving your relationships as a result then subscribe to our RSS feed

OOPs we goofed

September 12, 2007

in my last post I told you how I had posted a video and an audio that outlines our plans to bring advanced communication skills to everyone.

Well, it seems that we or more specifically “I ” goofed.

I assumed that George our webmaster was handling it and he assumed the same thing about me.

So what can we learn from this ? For us the big takeaway is that  when your communications and conflict resolution is sorted on a personal level  you often assume that they will be active within your business too. As you now know, that isn’t necessarily so.

It also turns out that the file is TOOOO big to host here so we are reworking things and will post here when it is up and where you can go and grab a copy.

It’s jam packed with information that will inspire and motivate you.

Hold tight….